Facets of Totalitarian Government

The handout we read about Totalitarian governments during class was interesting because it basically seemed as though there was no way to have a totalitarian government while still letting the people be happy.  Because those kinds of governments rely on invading the private sector of society, it's impossible for people to enjoy their lives.  The only people who are happy with the government are those that are receiving benefits from the government, which my nature cannot be the majority, but rather an extremely small majority.  

The ironic thing is that every single totalitarian government justifies their actions with the idea that everything they do is for the good of the nation.  How can this ever be true if the majority of the nation is left unhappy on principle?  If there was some way to have a totalitarian government that actually made everyone in the nation happy, it would be lead by the most unnatural of individuals (I am referring the idea that people with great power always end up making twisted decisions), or was not totalitarian to begin with.